Deacon Ordination: Rediscovering the Church as Family

This past week, our church ordained four new deacons, and the occasion was especially meaningful for me. Since arriving in 2018, I’ve worked closely with all of them in various ministries.

Some of them have children in our youth ministry, so I also have a close relationship with their children spanning from 6th grade to 11th grade.

I’ve attended and participated in several deacon ordination services over the years, but this one stood out because of a unique touch. Our interim pastor included an interview session, asking the new deacons three questions to help the congregation better understand their hearts and journeys.

What resonated with me most was their emphasis on how the church has functioned as a family, helping them raise their children and navigate life.

It brought back memories of my childhood. Back then, our family friends in the church acted as pseudo-parents. Their guidance carried the same authority as my parents’ words, and the bond between families was strong and rooted in mutual care and respect. This isn’t a critique of today’s relationships but a reflection on the depth of connection we often shared within the local church.

Hearing these deacons speak so warmly about their church family reminded me of the role the body of Christ plays in supporting one another.

Once, while Jesus was ministering in Galilee, He said:

“‘Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?’ Pointing to his disciples, he said, ‘Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.’” (Matthew 12:48-50)

This passage might seem out of place but it reveals a profound truth: Jesus redefined family as those who pursue God’s will. It transcends race, nationality, and even blood ties, uniting us as the Church—the body of Christ.

These deacons spoke of a deep, familial connection within their local church. What brought them together? Why were they committed to one another? It was the Church—a Bible-believing, Christ-centered community. Or as our minister of music likes to call it: this particular branch of Zion.

If you’re reading this, you may already be part of such a church. Perhaps you were in the past but are not now. My message is simple: these deacons reminded me of the importance of living life with people—godly people. Not perfect people, but those pursuing God, recognizing their need for Him and embracing His will.

Some of you may think, “I don’t need the church. It’s full of judgmental hypocrites.” That may be true, but there’s room for you too.

Jesus makes it clear—you cannot love Him and hate His bride.

Others may feel disconnected, thinking, “No one cares about me.” That’s not true. We can’t read minds, but if you boldly voice your concerns, needs, and hurts, I guarantee others will rally around you.

For those who already experience God’s work through your local church, I encourage you to keep leaning in. Look for those who need your support and watch for the incredible ways God moves in your life, in others’ lives, and within the Church.

Anyway, I was just thinking…